Have Fun Together

Relationships last when you remember to have fun together.

When was the last time you had fun with your partner?  It doesn’t have to be a big, elaborate date that costs way too much money.  It doesn’t have to cost money at all.  Just hang out, talk, hold hands, laugh, play a game, or dance.  Do what makes you happy together. 

Make a conscious effort to remember they are your friend and treat them like you love them.

You have to be willing to put in work to keep your relationship fun and happy.

Fun is work?  Of course it is!  Everything in life that is worth anything takes work.  Fun is an important part of keeping your relationship together.  Remember that this person is your partner AND your friend. 

I challenge you to look at your partner through eyes of love and make a plan to do something fun with them at least once every week.

Have fun just because you’re together.

Focus on the fact that you’re together.  You get to chose to spend time with this person.  You get to chose to love them.  Enjoy your time together.    

When you truly enjoy their company, fun happens.  Be open to letting the fun happen.  It could change your entire relationship!

Be their favorite hello and their hardest good-bye.

Most people fall in love and then allow everyday life to get between them. 

Wake up each morning making your relationship a priority.  Make your partner a priority.  Give them a reason to look forward to seeing you and spending time with you. 

Make your relationship more about comedy than drama.

You cannot change another person.  You can only change yourself.  Instead of pointing fingers and blame, shift your thoughts to a more positive pattern.  Adjusting your thoughts will put you in a more positive mindset.  When you are in that mindset, you see everything in a different light.

Today I challenge you to take a few deep breaths and say three things you love about this person.  Repeat this process two more times throughout the day.  Then have a conversation about having fun together.  You may be surprised to learn that they are having some of the same thoughts. 

Enjoy your adventures together without unrealistic expectations.

Life is an adventure.  When you look at it this way, you begin shifting your thoughts to the good things that are happening. 

We are all guilty of imposing our unrealistic expectations onto other people.  Remember, you are not able to change them.  The only thing you can change is the way you look at the situation. 

You can think, “Why can’t he just…” or you could think, “I get to see him today!” 

The first one is setting unrealistic expectations.  He doesn’t have to do something just because you want him to.  You are crossing his boundaries by imposing your beliefs on him.  Imagine how you would feel if he did that to you.

When you change your focus, life becomes an adventure and you learn to love not only that person, but yourself too! 

Your partner is someone to share the crazy that life sends your way.

Sometimes life gets so crazy and feels too heavy.  You don’t have to bear it all by yourself.  Share these times with your partner.  They are your sounding board, your teammate, and your biggest supporter. 

Sometimes life is beautiful and happy.  Don’t forget to share these times as well. Your partner and your relationship deserve to have the happy times, too.

Balance the good and the bad…together.   

Don’t just tell your partner that you enjoy spending time with them – do it! 

Do you remember when you first got together?  Those butterfly feelings when you just thought of them and the anticipation until you could see them again are some of the greatest feelings ever!  You can have those feelings when it’s a new relationship, when you’re together for ten years, and when you’re together for 60 years.  How?  By working at your relationship, of course. 

Working on your relationship could be as simple as making sure your conversations come from a place of love instead of anger or frustration.  Other times, working on your relationship is means you have to figure out what makes the other person happy. 

No matter what season you are in your relationship, you need to find ways to enjoy your time together.  The only way to do that is to actually spend time doing things together.  Smile, laugh, play, and have fun!  The butterflies are waiting!

Sometimes the smallest adventures lead you to happiness.

A car ride through the country; a picnic in the back yard; a walk in the park holding hands; and playing a game together.  These are a few examples of adventures you can have as a couple. 

Know that you don’t have to spend a lot of money to have true happiness.  The little adventures can add up to a great life together if you keep doing them. 

What adventure are you going to try together?  Just do it!

Be best friends first and a couple second.

Sometimes life seems to get in the way.  However, imagine if your partner put you first most of the time.  Imagine they thought of your feelings, wants, needs, and happiness before they did anything else.  Wouldn’t that make you so happy?  Imagine spending time with a person who would go out of their way to make sure that you are happy.

The best way to show your partner how to love you is to love them the way you want to be loved without expecting anything in return.  When you focus your attention on the things that make them happy, you become happier.